I remember longing to be married and wondered if it would ever happen. It seemed like a far-off dream and I was tempted to just settle for any man. I thought that I’d never meet someone once I graduated from college so the closer I neared to graduation, the more pressure I felt. Now I obviously know God would have brought him along in his timing, but I wish this book had been there for me to read while I was in the waiting period.
Deepak Reju has written a book that single ladies and teens need to read. I mean even read it several times over your life. And married women? They need to read it too! Sometimes it’s easy to forget that whole stage and those feelings that come along and this book reminded me of that time. It would also be a fantastic book to go through if you’re mentoring younger women. You can easily tell through his writing that Deepak Reju has such a heart for these ladies and longs to protect their hearts. Hee doesn’t want them to settle for just anyone but to wait on God’s man. I absolutely love that this is written from a man to women. I think it gives women a different perspective.
I tend to be very picky in the nonfiction books I read because I don’t want them to water down the Gospel or be about prosperity or any other type of non-biblical teaching. So I rely on the reviews and recommendations of the people on the back on of the cover and within the front page of the book. So I knew I had to get this book after I saw who all had read and recommended this book: Gloria Furman, Joni Eareckson Tada, David and Sally Michael, Mary K. Mohler, Elyse Fitzpatrick, and Martha Peace. There were more but I knew these ladies were Gospel-centered and wouldn’t put their names on just any book!
Inside, Reju talks about how smart women settle, why they settle, and how to live differently. In Part 2, he gives characteristics of men that might be the wrong guy. He talks about the control freak, the promiscuous guy, the unchurched guy, the new convert, the unbeliever, the angry man, the lone ranger, the commitment-phobic man, the passive man, and the unteachable guy. Part 3 addresses breaking up for the glory of God and then pursuing a real Christian man. He talks about why waiting is okay and how God helps in the waiting and loneliness by giving us just enough grace for the moments that we need. One of my favorite sections was actually the conclusion as he pours out his heart and lovingly tells women to not compromise. You see his love for these ladies seeping through the pages.
She’s Got the Wrong Guy: Why Smart Women Settle (New Growth Press)The control freak. The angry man. The lazy guy. The unteachable guy. The promiscuous man. The unbeliever. The lone ranger. The unchurched guy. The new convert. The commitment-phobe.
For any woman who has struggled with failed relationships, this may seem like a familiar list. These are the men your friends and family have in mind when they think, “she’s with the wrong guy.” And while the reasons women choose these types of men are complicated and varied, ultimately, they will all let you down.
In She’s Got the Wrong Guy, Deepak Reju offers a different kind of dating book, discussing the types of guys women should not marry and offering biblical reasons why they aren’t suitable spouses. Writing from his years of experience as a pastor and counselor, Reju shares with women his perspective on how to assess a relationship’s strengths from the beginning, how to identify possible pitfalls, and how to have the courage to wait for a relationship that will be a blessing for both of you. Using stories that single women can relate to and highlighting contemporary issues in the modern world of dating, Reju gives readers clear, biblical direction on how to have positive, life-giving relationships with members of the opposite sex.
With a strong, Christ-centered focus, women will better understand why they “settle” for less than what God intends for their romantic relationships and learn to put their hopes and find their happiness in Jesus, not marriage.
Deepak Reju, MDiv, PhD, serves as the pastor of biblical counseling and families at Capitol Hill Baptist Church (CHBC) in Washington, DC, as well as president for the board of directors of the Biblical Counseling Coalition. He is the author of several books and articles, including “Great Kings of the Bible: How Jesus Is Greater than Saul, David and Solomon,” “The Pastor and Counseling,” and “On Guard: Preventing and Responding to Child Abuse at Church.” Deepak and his wife Sarah have been married since 2001 and have five children.
I received this book free from New Growth Press and Litfuse Publicity Group in exchange for my honest opinion of this book.